Poker is good for you
Many people have argued that poker should be considered differently from
gambling in general. This argument has been made in discussions of legalization
and related topics. Their argument is usually that poker is a skill game, while
other gambling games are much less dependent upon skill.
We agree, but
believe that they have not gone far enough in explaining many of poker's unique
attributes. Poker does not just require skill. It demands and develops many
skills and personal qualities which are essential for making all types of
decisions, such as choosing a career, investing money, performing a job, and
buying a house. (1)
POKER IS A GREAT TEACHER.
Research clearly proves that people tend to repeat rewarded actions and to
discontinue punished ones. Poker teaches by rewarding desirable actions such as
thinking logically and understanding other people and by punishing undesirable
ones such as ignoring the odds and acting impulsively. (2) Other learning
principles also apply to poker.
Learning Depends Upon
Feedback. Rewards and punishments are valuable feedback. The faster
and clearer the feedback is, the more rapidly you will learn. Unfortunately, for
learning many desirable qualities the feedback cycle is slow or unclear. For
example, if you make a mistake with an important customer, you may never know
why you lost his business. At the poker table you often get much quicker
feedback.
Until fairly recently, most people learned how to play poker
primarily from trial and error. Over the past few decades a rapidly expanding
body of books, videotapes, DVDs, classes, and coaches has helped millions of
players to speed up the learning curve, but there is no substitute for
experience. You have to make good and bad plays and get rewarded and punished to
learn poker's most important lessons.
The More Frequently You Get
Feedback, The Faster You Will Learn. Most important real life
decisions are made infrequently, and some of them - such as choosing a career -
may be made only once. Poker players make and get feedback on hundreds of
decisions every session, which greatly accelerates the learning process.
Lessons Learned In One Situation Often Generalize To Other
Situations. If poker's lessons applied only to how to play games,
we would not have written this article. But its lessons apply to virtually every
aspect of life. For example, if you are impatient or illogical or can't analyze
risks and rewards, you will lose at poker, and you will make many mistakes in
business and personal relationships. If poker teaches you how to control your
emotions, you will be much more effective almost everywhere.
Young People Generally Learn More Quickly Than Older
Ones. Poker's enemies often insist that they are protecting young
people from developing bad habits, but they are really preventing them from
learning good ones. Young people love to gamble, sometimes for money, often for
much more "things" such as grades, pregnancy, and even their lives.
They
get a kick from taking chances, and some of their gambles are just, plain
stupid. They risk dying or becoming crippled by crazy stunts on roller skates,
bicycles, and snowboards. They get pregnant or AIDS by taking easily avoided
sexual risks. It is as impossible to prevent young people from "gambling" (in
its broadest sense) as it is to prevent them from experimenting sexually.
Life is intrinsically risky, and learning how to handle those risks is
an important part of growing up. Poker teaches you to think of risks and rewards
before acting. If it taught nothing else, poker would prevent some young people
from making terrible mistakes. More generally, most of poker's lessons will help
young people to make critically important decisions.
POKER
IMPROVES YOUR STUDY HABITS. Because you want to be respected, you
and nearly everyone else naturally develop high status qualities and neglect low
status ones. Unfortunately, status among Americans - especially young ones - is
based primarily on physical attractiveness and athletic ability. The highest
status people, the ones others envy and want to date, are physically attractive
and good at games such as football, basketball, and soccer. Of course, the good
looking, athletic children will probably end up working for the more studious
ones, but they may not learn that lesson until it is too late.
American
students score abysmally on tests of math, science, and verbal skills partly
because so many of them think that study is unimportant. They are not stupider
than Europeans, Asians, and South Americans, but they are taught from birth that
they will be rewarded for looking good and playing athletic games well.
Worse yet, they learn that being studious is often punished. Their
parents may be delighted when they get good grades, but young people care
immensely about their peers' opinions. Good students are called "nerds" and
"geeks."
This anti-intellectualism continues indefinitely. Americans
reward good looks and athletic ability far more than studiousness. Models,
actors, and athletes get paid several times as much and have much higher status
than scientists, teachers, and scholars.
Young people resist studying
math, psychology, logic, risk-reward analysis, probability theory, and many
other subjects they will need as adults because these subjects seem unrelated to
their lives. They don't see how learning them matters in the competitions they
care about, the ones for status, popularity, and dates. Since people rarely
study these subjects after graduation, many Americans never learn
them.
Poker quickly teaches them the value of these subjects. The "nerds"
who study poker and subjects such as math, logic, and psychology crush their
more attractive and athletic opponents. They even beat smarter people who are
too lazy or complacent to study. Winning increases their status and confidence
and makes them much more likely to get dates and influence their peers. Poker
doesn't just develop study habits and other important qualities; it also
increases the value people place on them.
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR
MATH SKILLS. Americans are terrible at math. Our students get
abysmal scores on math tests, and most people don't even try to learn math after
leaving school. Their weaknesses remain uncorrected forever.
Many people
are not just bad at math; they don't even want to get better. They essentially
say, "Who needs it?" When they play poker, they quickly learn that they need it.
The winners understand and apply it, while the losers either don't try or can't
perform the necessary calculations. After their children started playing poker,
many parents have exclaimed, "I'm amazed. He actually wants to study math."
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR LOGICAL THINKING. Many
authorities are appalled by Americans' contempt for logic. Instead of thinking
logically, too many of us make poor assumptions, rely on intuition, or jump to
emotionally-based conclusions.
Poker teaches you to respect and apply
logic because it is a series of puzzles. Since you don't know the other players'
cards, you need logic to help you to figure out what they have, and then more
logic to decide how to use that information well. The same general approach that
works in poker will help you to make much more important decisions.
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR CONCENTRATION. The first step
toward solving poker or real life problems is acquiring the right information.
Without it you will certainly make costly mistakes. Poker develops
information-gathering qualities, especially concentration. Every poker player
has missed signals, including quite obvious ones, made mistakes, and then
berated himself, "How could I be so stupid?" We can't think of a more effective
way to develop concentration.
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR
PATIENCE. Americans are notoriously impatient, which damages many
aspects of our lives. We owe trillions of dollars because we buy things on
credit instead of waiting until we can pay for them. Our businesses
overemphasize short-term results and lose market share to more patient foreign
competitors.
Poker develops patience in the most powerful possible way.
If you wait patiently for the right situation, you will certainly beat the
impatient people who play too many hands. In fact, for most players poker's
first lesson is "Be Patient."
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR
DISCIPLINE. Many people lack discipline. They yield to their
impulses, including quite destructive ones. Poker develops discipline by
rewarding it highly. Virtually all winning players are extremely
disciplined.
Their discipline affects everything they do. They fold hands
they are tempted to play. They resist the urge to challenge tough players. They
avoid distractions, even pleasant ones like chatting with friends or sexually
attractive strangers. They don't criticize bad players whose mistakes cost them
money. They control their emotions. They have the self-control to do the
necessary, but unpleasant things that most people won't do.
Television
has created a ridiculously inaccurate image of poker. After seeing famous
players screaming and trash-talking, viewers naturally assume that such antics
are normal. They are utterly mistaken. Television directors show these outbursts
for "dramatic value," and a few players act stupidly to get on TV. You will see
more outbursts in a half hour of television than in a month in a card room.
Please remember that controlled people are often called "poker
faced."
POKER TEACHES YOU TO FOCUS ON THE LONG TERM.
Impatience is not the only cause for short-sightedness. Learning research
proves that immediate rewards have much greater impact on people than delayed
ones. For example, most American adults are overweight because the immediate
pleasure of overeating is more powerful than its disastrous long-term effects
such as heart attacks.
Poker players quickly learn that a bad play can
have good results and vice versa, but that making decisions with positive,
long-term expectation (EV) is the key to success. If you make enough negative EV
plays, you must lose. If you make enough positive EV plays, you must win. It is
just that simple.
If people thought more of the long term, some of our
most serious problems would be solved or become less troublesome. Because of
short-sightedness, millions of children drop out of school or get pregnant, and
millions of adults neglect their health and finances.
POKER
TEACHES YOU THAT FORGOING A PROFIT EQUALS TAKING A LOSS (AND VICE
VERSA). Economists call lost profits "opportunity costs" and they
have written extensively about them. Unfortunately, most people haven't read
their works, and, if they did, they probably wouldn't agree. They would much
rather pass up a chance to make a dollar than risk losing one. They therefore
miss many profitable opportunities.
Poker teaches you that lost profits
are objectively the same as losses. For example, if the pot offers you 8-to1,
and the odds against you are 5-to-1, you should call the bet. Not calling is the
same as throwing away money by making a bad call when the odds are against you.
POKER DEVELOPS YOUR REALISM. You and everyone else
deny unpleasant realities about yourself, other people, and many other subjects.
You believe what you want to believe. Poker develops realism in the cruelest,
but most effective way. If you deny reality about yourself, the opposition, the
cards, the odds, or almost anything else, you quickly pay for it.
Hundreds of times a night you must assess a complicated situation: your
own and the other players' cards, what the others are going to do, the
probability that various cards will come on later rounds, your position, and
many other factors, especially your own and the other players' skill and playing
style. If you are realistic, you win. If you deny reality, you lose.
POKER TEACHES YOU HOW ADJUST TO CHANGING SITUATIONS.
Most people don't ask themselves, "How is this situation different?" They
just do whatever they have always done. Poker demands adjustments because the
situation is always changing. One card can convert a worthless hand such as a
four flush into an unbeatable one. The player holding the flush and all the
opponents should adjust immediately. The player with the winning hand should do
whatever will produce the most profit, and the others should cut their
losses.
Other things are changing as well. One hand after being in the
small blind, the worst position, you have the button, the best position. Every
time someone quits and is replaced by a different type of player, the game
changes. Every time someone surprises you by folding, checking, betting, or
raising you should re-evaluate the situation and adjust to the new information.
Adjusting to real life changes has always been necessary, but it is has
become much more important because the pace of change has accelerated
enormously. We now experience more changes every year than our ancestors
encountered in decades. Technology, the economy, social and moral attitudes, and
a host of other factors change so dramatically that Alvin Toffler: "coined the
term 'future shock' to describe the shattering disorientation we induce in
individuals by subjecting them to too much change in too short a time."(3) He
argued, "Change is avalanching upon our heads, and most people are grotesquely
unprepared to cope with it."(4) Poker can help you to cope with our constantly
changing world.
POKER TEACHES YOU TO ADJUST TO DIVERSE
PEOPLE. Most people - especially younger ones - have little
experience with diverse people. They live in relatively homogenous towns and
neighborhoods and usually relate to people who are fairly similar to themselves.
In online and casino poker games, you have to play with whoever sits
down. You must compete against very different kinds of people: aggressive and
passive, friendly and nasty, educated and uneducated, quiet and talkative,
intelligent and stupid, emotionally controlled and uncontrolled, and so on.
You therefore learn how to understand and adjust to people who think and
act very differently from you. The faster you and better you do it, the better
results you will get. Since you will certainly meet diverse people in more
important situations, learning how to relate to them is extremely
valuable.(5)
POKER TEACHES YOU TO AVOID RACIAL, SEXUAL AND OTHER
PREJUDICES. Prejudice is always wrong, but it is especially
destructive at the poker table. It causes you to underestimate your opposition
and make expensive errors. To play well, you should be "gender-blind,
color-blind, and just-about-everything else-blind, because in the end, winning
is based on merit."(6)
Poker provides an extremely "level playing field."
In no other popular competition is everyone treated so equally. You can't play
golf against Tiger Woods, but you can sit down at any poker table. You can play
against anyone from a novice to a world class player, and you will all be
treated as equals. If you get the cards and play them well, you will win, no
matter who you are.
POKER TEACHES YOU HOW TO HANDLE
LOSSES. Many people can't cope with losses. A lost job, argument,
or - God forbid -romantic relationship is a massive tragedy. They can't accept
the loss and may even obsess over it. It takes over their lives, making them
look backward rather than forward.
Poker teaches you how to cope with
losses because they occur so frequently. You lose far more hands than you win,
and losing sessions and losing streaks are just normal parts of the game. You
also learn that trying to get even quickly is a prescription for disaster. You
have to accept short-term losses and continue to play a solid, patient game. You
can't be a winner - in poker or life - if you don't learn how to get over losses
and move on.
POKER TEACHES YOU TO DEPERSONALIZE
CONFLICT. Many people take conflicts too personally. They may want
to beat someone so badly that they "win the battle, but lose the war." Worse
yet, if they lose, they may take it as a personal defeat and ache for revenge.
Anyone who has seriously played games with painful physical contact (such as
football, boxing, and soccer) is less likely to take conflict too personally.
Getting hurt teaches some athletes that conflict is just part of the game and
life. Alas, many people never learn that lesson.
Poker teaches you to
depersonalize conflicts because it is based on impersonal conflict. The
objective is to win each other's money, and everyone's money is the same. It
doesn't matter whether you win or lose to Harry, Susan, or Bob. Everybody's
chips have the same value, and everybody's money spends the same.
Poker
quickly teaches you that being bluffed, sandbagged, outdrawn, and just plain
outplayed are not personal challenges or insults. They are just parts of the
game. Poker also teaches you that taking conflicts personally can be extremely
expensive.
If you ache for revenge, you may act foolishly and lose a lot
of money. Beating "your enemy" can become so important that you play cards you
should fold, try hopeless bluffs, and take many other stupid, self-destructive
actions. The Chinese have a wonderful saying, "If you set out for revenge, dig
two graves: one for him, and one for you." Poker teaches that principle to every
open-minded player.
POKER TEACHES YOU HOW TO PLAN.
Many people don't plan well. Instead of setting objectives and planning the
steps to reach them, they react impulsively or habitually. Poker develops your
planning ability for an extremely wide range of time periods:
* This
betting round
* This entire hand
* This session
* This tournament
* This year
* Your entire poker career
Planning for all of these
periods requires setting objectives and anticipating what others will do. For
example, pocket aces are the best possible hand, and you hope to build a big pot
with them. In early position in a loose-passive game, you should raise because
your opponents will probably call. In a wildly aggressive game you should just
call, expecting someone to raise, others to call, so that you can reraise.
Poker also teaches you to plan for the entire hand. You use chess-type
thinking ("I'll do this, they will do that, and then I'll …"). You may sacrifice
some profit on an early betting round to increase your profits for the entire
hand.
You can also sacrifice immediate profits for longer-term gains. For
example, you may overplay the first few hands to create a "Wild Gambler" image
that will get you more action on later hands. Or you may be extremely tight at
first to set up later bluffs. Poker teaches you to set clear goals, think of
what others will do, plan the actions that will move you toward your goals, and
always know why you are doing something.
Good planning requires thinking
of multiple contingencies. You should do many "what, if?" analyses. If the next
card is a spade, you will bet. If it pairs the board, and Joe bets, you will
fold. If it seems innocuous and Harriet bets, you will raise. Most people don't
consider nearly enough possibilities. When something unexpected happens, they
have no idea what to do.
Planning in real life is so obviously valuable
and so rarely done well that we don't need to give any examples. You know that
you should do these "what if" analyses and plan your work, finances, and life in
general, but that you probably don't plan well.
POKER TEACHES YOU
HOW TO HANDLE DECEPTIVE PEOPLE. Many people are easily deceived.
Just look at those late night infomercials that promise you'll quickly get rich,
become thin, or relieve all your aches and pains. The promoters wouldn't pay for
them if naïve people didn't buy them, and they are only the tip of the iceberg.
As Barnum put it, "There's a sucker born every minute."
Because poker
players constantly try to bluff, sandbag, and generally deceive each other, you
learn how to recognize when someone has a good hand, is on a draw to a good
hand, or is flat out bluffing Those skills can help you to spot and react
effectively to deceptive people everywhere. A lot of people want to deceive you,
and you should learn how to protect yourself.
POKER TEACHES YOU
HOW TO CHOOSE THE BEST "GAMES." "Game" selection is critically
important in both poker and life. Poker teaches you how to evaluate yourself,
the competition, and the overall situation, and then pick the "games" that are
best for you.
Serious poker players recognize that the main reason they
win or lose is the difference between their abilities and those of the
competition. If they are better than the competition, they win. If they are
weaker, they lose.
A secondary consideration is the fit between their
style and the game. Let's say that two poker players have equal abilities.
Player A will beat a conservative game, but lose in an aggressive one, while
Player B will have the opposite results. Obviously, they should choose different
games.
Both factors affect your real life results. If you are less
talented or have weaker credentials than your competitors, you should switch to
a softer game. You should also select a game that fits your style. For example,
you and a friend may have similar abilities and credentials, but different
temperaments. Perhaps you should work in a large organization, but he should
join a small company or start his own business.
Most people don't know
how to evaluate themselves and how well they fit into various "games." So they
make huge mistakes that they may not realize for many years. Just think of how
many people have changed "games" in their thirties and forties. They finally
realized, "I don't belong here."
POKER TEACHES YOU THE BENEFITS
OF ACTING LAST. If you act last, you have a huge edge. You know
what your opponents have done before acting, but they acted without knowing what
you will do. Position is so important that any good player would raise with some
cards in last position that he would fold in early position.
Poker is an
information-management game, and there are many similar games such as selling
and negotiating. The primary rules of all these games are:
* Get as much
information as possible.
* Give as little information as possible.
For
example, when negotiating, you want the other person to go first to learn his
position before expressing yours. Let's say you have to sell an unusual house
quickly. A licensed appraiser has said that it is worth approximately $250,000,
but that it is so unique that he can't put a precise value on it.
Before
offering a price, you want to know how this potential buyer feels. He may love,
hate, or be indifferent to its unique features. If he makes the first offer, you
get some inkling of his feelings. He may even offer $275,000! Since he seems to
love its uniqueness, try for an even higher price.
Job interviewers know
the value of acting last. Most employment applications contain a question such
as: "Approximate starting salary expected." If you answer, you have given the
interviewer your position without knowing what he is willing to pay. Since you
are unlikely to get more than you ask for, try to avoid making that first offer.
POKER TEACHES YOU TO FOCUS ON THE IMPORTANT SUBJECTS.
Focusing on unimportant subjects causes expensive mistakes at the poker
table and in real life. Serious poker players know that all mistakes are not
created equal. Trying too hard to avoid small mistakes can cause much bigger
ones.
Overreacting to any opponent's small mistakes can cause the deadly
mistake of underestimating him. For example, you may see that an opponent
overplays a mediocre hand such as queen-jack offsuit. It's a mistake, but a
relatively harmless one, especially because he will get that hand only a few
times a night. If he plays the other hands well, don't conclude that he is a
weak player.
Your own mistakes should also be analyzed, and some of them
can be quite subtle, but very important. For example, you may be so intent on
playing "properly" that you seem too serious for the weaker opponents who just
want to have a good time. So they avoid you, which reduces your share of the
money they give away.
Another error is taking a "by the book" approach
that can cause strategic mistakes. For example, you could play your cards in a
technically correct way, but almost never bluff. You would lose the profit you
could gain from good bluffs, and your opponents will not give you much action on
your good hands. The same principle applies to always playing hands the same
way. The predictability costs you more than you gain by always being technically
correct.
A business analogy would be running your organization so
rigidly that all the ordinary decisions are made well, but:
* Your
employees are not motivated to be creative when the usual routines won't work.
In fact, they may fear being punished for violating procedures.
* Your
organization can't respond effectively to the inevitable surprises.
* Your
good employees quit.
* Your organization becomes a typical bureaucracy,
filled with deadwood and unable to achieve its goals.
POKER
TEACHES YOU HOW TO APPLY PROBABILITY THEORY. If you are like most
people, you don't think in terms of probabilities, or you do so very crudely.
You think something:
* will happen
* won't happen
* probably
will happen
* probably won't happen
You are unlikely to make finer
distinctions such as between 30%, 20%, and 10% probabilities.
Poker
teaches that these distinctions are important and develops your ability to
calculate them. You learn that you should sometimes call a bet if you have a 30%
probability of winning, but fold with a 20% probability. You also learn how to
estimate probabilities quickly and accurately.
This neglected skill can
be applied to many real life decisions. For example, if you have to fly to Los
Angeles for a sales call or job interview, it may be worth the time and expense
if the probability of success is 30%, but not if it's 20%. Hardly anyone thinks
that way which causes many poor decisions.
POKER TEACHES YOU HOW
TO CONDUCT RISK-REWARD ANALYSES. These analyses are a more formal
way to use probability theory. Since life is intrinsically risky, you probably
can't win at poker or life without accurately assessing risks and rewards.
Risk-reward analysis is a form of cost-benefit analysis which also
includes the probabilities of each possible result. Let's say that the pot is
$100. You have a flush draw that you expect to win if you make it, but lose if
you miss. It will cost you $20 to call the bet. The odds against making your
flush are exactly 4-to-1. If you make it, you will win another $20 because you
are sure your opponent will call one last bet. You are sure you cannot bluff.
Should you call the $20 bet?
You will certainly lose more often than you
will win, but the potential gains may outweigh the potential losses. Because we
are concerned only with the long term, let's do it 100 times:
You will
win $120 twenty times for a total win of $2,400
You will lose $20 eighty
times for a total loss of -1,600
Your net gain for 100 times will be $800
Your expected value for each call is $8
You should obviously call the
bet.
Poker players constantly do risk-reward analyses, and these
analyses are often much more complicated. For example, in deciding whether to
semi-bluff7, you should estimate the probabilities, gains and losses
of:
* winning the pot immediately because your opponent(s) fold
*
winning because you bet again on the next round and your opponent(s) fold
*
winning because you catch the card you need to make the best hand
* losing
because you get called and don't catch your card.
The math can get
difficult, but advanced players learn how to make these analyses quickly and
accurately.
The same sort of analysis should be done whenever you have a
real life risky situation. Unfortunately, most people don't do it. They buy
stocks or real estate, take a job, open a business, or take personal risks
without identifying all the outcomes and estimating the probabilities that each
will occur. So they make many bad decisions.
Poker is such an excellent
teacher for risky decisions that Peter Lynch, former manager of The Magellan
Fund and Vice Chairman of Fidelity, once said that a good way to become a better
investor was to "Learn how to play poker."(8)
POKER TEACHES YOU
TO PUT THINGS IN CONTEXT AND EVALUATE ALL VARIABLES.
People often
ask poker experts, "How should I play this hand?" They are usually frustrated by
the standard answer, "It depends on the situation." The expert then asks them
about the other players, their own position, the size of the pot, the action on
previous hands and betting rounds, and many other subjects. Most people don't
want to hear, "It depends on the situation," and they definitely don't want to
answer questions.
In fact, they usually can't answer them because they
have not counted the pot, thought about the other players, and done all the
other things that experts do. They want to know the two or three simple rules
for playing a pair of aces, or a full house, or a flush draw, and the experts
won't tell them because there aren't any simple rules.
If you play
seriously, you will learn that the KISS formula (Keep It Short and Simple) does
not apply to poker. More importantly, it does not apply to most significant real
life decisions. It has become popular because people want to believe that life
is much simpler than it really is. Poker teaches you to ask the same sorts of
questions about investment, career, and other decisions that you ask at the
poker table so that you make much better decisions.
POKER TEACHES
YOU HOW TO "GET INTO PEOPLE'S HEADS." Poker teaches you to
understand and apply psychology because understanding others is absolutely
essential. In fact, poker has often been called "a people game played with
cards." If you don't understand the other players, you can't win.
We have
already discussed psychological subjects such as avoiding prejudice and
selecting the right games. We will end this long essay by briefly discussing
poker's most important psychological lesson: teaching you what other people
perceive, think, and want.
The first step is shifting your focus from
yourself to them, and poker forces you to make that shift. If you focus on your
own cards, you can't win because poker hands have only relative value. The
important issue is not how good your cards are; it is how they compare to the
other players' cards. A flush is a very good hand, but it loses to a bigger
flush or any full house or better. So poker quickly teaches you to think of what
other people have. It also teaches you to think about what they think you have.
And even what they think you think they think.9
We and others have
written extensively about these subjects, but space limitations allow us to give
only a few examples. Good players always consider the other player when making
any decision. With the same cards and situation, they would fold if Charley, a
very conservative player, bets, but raise if Mary, a very aggressive player,
bets.
Good players would also think about how their opponents think
about each other. For example, if a perceptive opponent bets into someone whom
he believes is very likely to call, he is probably not bluffing. If a good
player reraises a maniac, he probably has a much weaker hand than if he reraised
a tight opponent. Understanding his perceptions of these other players greatly
improves your decisions when you are contesting a pot.
Understanding
other people is vital in virtually every area of life. You can't have good
personal relationships or succeed in business without being perceptive about
people. Since its value in personal relationships is so obvious, we will discuss
only two subjects, negotiating and investing.
"The absolutely essential
step toward negotiating effectively is to shift your focus from your own
position to their position. Unfortunately, most people focus on their own
position. Their actions say, in effect, 'If I could just get them to understand
MY facts and MY logic and MY needs, they would make the concessions I need.' The
other side is saying exactly the same thing.
"They therefore have
parallel monologues instead of a genuine dialogue. Both sides repeat themselves
again and again, hoping to convince the other to accept their position. But
eloquence is no substitute for understanding, and you cannot gain that
understanding without shifting your focus and sincerely wanting to understand
the other side."(10)
All good poker players know and apply David
Sklansky's "Fundamental Theorem of Poker."11 Less well known is his "Fundamental
Theorem of Investing:"
"Before making any investment ... you must be able
to explain why the other party is willing to take the other side of the deal...
if you cannot come up with a good explanation, your buy, sell or bet is almost
certainly not as good as you think."12
Unfortunately, most people don't
seriously analyze the other party's reasons. Their attention is focused
primarily on themselves, their economics, their analysis, and their reasons for
buying or selling. If they thought about the other party's motives and
perceptions, they might realize that they are making a disastrous mistake.
The principle is very clear. You should always determine as accurately
as you can why the other party is willing to sell, buy, or do other business
with you. If you don't understand his reasons, "all the statistics, income
statements, balance sheet data, or analysts' recommendations mean little. There
is still some reason they are taking your bet - and, if you don't know it, you
don't like it."13
We could quote many other authorities on the value of
understanding other people, but there is no need to do so. Instead, we will
close with a quotation from one of the best selling books of all time: How To
Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie: "If there is one secret of
success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see
things from that person's angle as well as your own."14
Since you can't
win at poker without seeing things from other people's angle, you will learn
this valuable lesson. You will then become much better at winning friends,
influencing people, and making decisions about virtually
everything.
CONCLUSIONS We have described many - but
certainly not all - of the skills and personal qualities that poker develops.
Most of poker's lessons are variations on one theme: Think carefully before you
act. That principle applies everywhere, and far too many people ignore
it.
SUMMARY OF POKER'S BENEFITS Because this essay is so
long, you may not want to reprint all of it. We believe that a good summary is
simply a list of the headings. Please feel free to reprint as much or as little
as you wish.
Poker Is A Great Teacher.
Poker Improves Your Study
Habits.
Poker Develops Your Math Skills.
Poker Develops Your Logical
Thinking.
Poker Develops Your Concentration.
Poker Develops Your
Patience.
Poker Develops Your Discipline.
Poker Teaches You To Focus On
The Long Term.
Poker Teaches You That Forgoing A Profit Equals Taking A Loss
(And Vice Versa).
Poker Develops Your Realism.
Poker Teaches You To
Adjust To Changing Situations.
Poker Teaches You To Adjust To Diverse
People.
Poker Teaches You To Avoid Racial, Sexual And Other Prejudices.
Poker Teaches You How To Handle Losses.
Poker Teaches You To
Depersonalize Conflict.
Poker Teaches You How To Plan.
Poker Teaches You
How To Handle Deceptive People.
Poker Teaches You How To Choose The Best
"Game."
Poker Teaches You The Benefits Of Acting Last.
Poker Teaches You
To Focus On The Important Subjects.
Poker Teaches You How To Apply
Probability Theory.
Poker Teaches You How To Conduct Risk-Reward Analyses.
Poker Teaches You To Put Things In Context And Evaluate All Variables.
Poker Teaches You How To "Get Into People's Heads."
The government's
attempts to outlaw poker are based upon a misconception of its nature and value.
It is not "just gambling," and it should not be subject to the same rules and
penalties as other gambling games. Instead, the government should allow you to
play poker in regulated and taxed places because poker is good for you and good
for America.
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Footnotes:
1 We assume, of course, that
you will not become obsessed with poker or play for higher stakes than you can
afford.
2 These rewards and punishments may not be instantaneous. It may
take a while for things to average out.
3 Future Shock, New York, Random
House, 1970, Page 4
4ibid, page 14
5 Adjusting to varied players
was the primary theme of Alan Schoonmaker's book, The Psychology of Poker,
Henderson, NV, Two Plus Two Publishing, 2000.
6 Barbara Connors, "Poker
Play" in Maryann Morrison's Women's Poker Night, New York, Kensington
Publishing, 2007, p. 26.
7 "A semi-bluff is a bet with a hand which, if
called, does not figure to be the best hand at the moment, but has a reasonable
chance of outdrawing those hands that initially called it." David Sklansky, The
Theory of Poker, p. 91.
8 "Ten lessons poker teaches great investors," by
Christopher Graja, Bloomberg's Personal Finance, June, 2001, p. 56
9 See
"Multiple level thinking" in David Sklansky and Ed Miller, No Limit Hold 'em:
Theory And Practice, Henderson, NV, Two Plus Two Publishing, 2006, pp.
168-175.
10 Alan N. Schoonmaker, Negotiate to win. Englewood Cliffs, NJ,
Prentice-Hall, 1989, p. 76
11 "The Fundamental Theorem of Poker" is
explained on pages 17-26 of The Theory of Poker.
12 David Sklansky, "The
Fundamental Theorem of Investing," Card Player, August 16, 2002, pp.
34-36
13 ibid.
14 Dale Carnegie How To Win Friends and Influence
People, NY, Simon and Schuster, 1936, copyright renewed 1964, P. 37. The italics
were in the book.
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